The number one denominator in my life has often been illness-illness owned me. Illness controlled my life and my planning and was a factor in almost everything I did. Often I would be planning an event and had to start with “well my illness prohibits these kinds of activities so let’s start with a clean slate of total limitations.” I would withdraw from almost everything I enjoyed.
It took me over 15 years to learn that I applied those limitations knowingly and also subconsciously, and it was THAT that disabled me-not truly my illness. Self-management means owning your illness, not the other way around. When you own your illness, it can’t own you. I discuss lots of ways to gain control of chronic illness on this site that have been proven effective methods.